Strictly speaking, eloping means running off IN THE SPUR OF THE MOMENT with the love of your life to SECRETLY get married! Nowadays, however, eloping is more of a trend and has become a perfectly acceptable way to get married. Still, persistent questions are revolving around elopements that confuse couples and worst-case-scenario, even scare them off from eloping entirely. So, I put together the top 5 elopement questions I hear repeatedly and answer them once and for all! So, without further ado, let’s get to it!
Perhaps unsurprisingly, there is no clear yes or no answer to that. Every couple has to decide for themselves. However, some pros and cons might help you make a decision:
An elopement is cheaper. Yes, that’s indeed the case! But before you get way too excited, see question number 3 for more clarification!!
An elopement allows you to be more flexible! Like picking a location, a particular venue, a day, a time, a menu basically, everything where you otherwise would need to consider your guests!
An elopement is easier to plan. Fancy a destination wedding? Want to say yes in the middle of the world’s largest desert or on top of a mountain? Then an elopement might be the right choice for you! Just think about the logistics when trying to get 100 people on top of that mountain! But even without a fancy location, there are hundreds of other small details that you would have to think about when planning a big wedding, like welcome bags, entertainment, or food allergies, just to name a few.
An elopement is just for you! And because it is just for you, it is such an intimate and incredibly romantic moment for the two of you when you read your vows to each other.
There is only one disadvantage I can think of. HOWEVER, this is a big one!
An elopement is tough! So before you make a hasty decision based on pretty Pinterest pictures and the urge to save money, take a moment to yourself, close your eyes and imagine your big day!
How do you feel? Your friends and family are not around, your dad isn’t there to walk you down the aisle, and your sister can’t tell you how beautiful you are!
If that stresses you out, reconsider! Seriously, reconsider! You don’t have to go big or go home when it comes to your elopement. Ever thought about having a small, so-called intimate, pop-up, or micro wedding? This is basically an elopement with one considerable advantage: you celebrate your wedding with your CLOSEST friends and core family.
That depends on where you want to elope to as marriage laws vary from state to state and from country to country. I always recommend getting information about marriage requirements first. If you are eloping to another country, my biggest advice is to get legally married in your home country BEFORE you elope. If you think: “Oh well, then we are already married, so why should we elope at all and spend money on a symbolic ceremony!”, I believe a wedding is not about signing a legal document but about your love and the promises you make to each other on your wedding day!
Number three of the top 5 most common elopement questions is all about the money! But frankly, there is no way of giving you an amount as the costs depend on what YOU want! Generally speaking, elopements are cheaper than typical weddings. After all, you will save a fortune on things like food, drinks, stationery, wedding favors, and wedding entertainment!
That said, that doesn’t mean an elopement must be cheaper necessarily. It depends on what you envision for your big day! Have you been dreaming about this outrageously expensive lace wedding dress with the plunging neckline? This jaw-dropping tablescape you saw on Pinterest? Or getting married in a 5-star luxury beach resort on the Maldives? Even if you don’t spend your money on a reception for 90 people, you might still decide to go all out for your elopement!
If saving money is the most important reason for you, remember an elopement is still not for free! There are some expenses you need to calculate for such as marriage license, wedding officiant, wedding attire, and rings, just to name a few.
When deciding on where you want to elope to, here some questions you might find helpful for finding your perfect spot. Take a few minutes and answer them together:
Once you have answered all these questions, you should have a better understanding of your elopement vision! With that in mind, get creative or ask a travel agent or wedding planner for some input!
This last of the 5 most common elopement questions is, without doubt, the one that concerns couples most! If you are worried that you might hurt your friend’s or family’s feelings, here are some tips:
I truly hope I could bring some light into the 5 most common elopement questions!!
If you have more questions, leave me a comment!! As always, I’d love to hear from you!
PS. Are you already planning an elopement? Then check out this blog post: Top 10 Mistakes to Avoid for a Dream Elopement.